Tolerance the First Principle of Manners

Every denial of, or interference with, the personal freedom or absolute rights of another, is a violation of good manners. He who presumes to censure me for my religious belief, or want of belief; who makes it a matter of criticism or reproach, that I am a Theist or Atheist, Trinitarian or Unitarian, Catholic or Protestant, Pagan or Christian, Jew, Mohamedan, or Mormon, is guilty of rudeness and insult. If any of these modes of belief make me intolerant or intrusive, he may resent such intolerance, or repel such intrusion; but the basis of all true politeness, and social enjoyment, is the mutual tolerance of personal rights. And every one who wishes to see the world anything but a scene of conflict and a prison house, must be willing to give this toleration themselves, and to demand it of all others, and for all others. Admirable was the answer of a friend of ours to some one who came to him with a complaint of what he thought the improper conduct of a neighbor: “I may not approve this man’s acts,” he said; “they may be contrary to my judgment, and offend my taste, but I would shoulder a musket to-morrow in defense of his right to do as he pleases in a matter that infringes upon the rights of no other person.”

No doubt there is a criticism which is proper and useful in society. There is no objection to very free criticism, when made in the spirit of toleration. The critic who says: “Neighbor, I understand that you ate cabbage for dinner to-day. I consider eating cabbage immoral, and opposed to the best interests of society.” This may pass, and I may thank my friend for the suggestion, and engage to take it into respectful consideration. But if he adds, “You have no right to eat cabbages, and if you persist we intend to pull your house down,” I should be apt to buy a revolver and try the issue.

It may be known, as a matter of fact, and innocently related, that such a man is a fire-worshiper; that such a woman knits on Sunday; that another eats his Welsh rarebit with mustard; that Miss Jones has the misfortune to be devotedly in love with her friend’s husband; or that Mrs. Thompson accepts the free-love theories of the Fourierists. But when such matters, the love or the mustard, become causes of persecution, there is a very gross violation of the first principles of good manners.

——The Illustrated Manners Book, 1855.

As to the author, “We have solemnly pledged to keep his incognito sacred,” says the publisher.

“It Can’t Be Done”


Most things can be done, and when anyone told me that such and such a thing could not be done, I got someone who could do it. I still follow that same principle.

——Cecil B. De Mille, quoted in Photoplay, October, 1916.

Cecil B. De Mille on Ignorance


Our success has been due largely to ignorance. If we had been versed in the “movie” technique of two years ago, I do not believe we could have succeeded. When I came to Los Angeles, I knew nothing of the making of films, but I had the big idea. I had seen picture plays that were almost dramas. One touch could have made them dramas, but instead of that touch, there was a kick in the face, and it was farce.

The first Lasky picture which I produced was “The Squawman” with Dustin Farnum in the title role. No one but the cameraman had ever had any picture experience, of those who worked on that play in the garage studio.

Ignorance is a wonderful thing when properly applied.

——From Photoplay, October, 1916.

On Art and Technology

If the old builders and artists had possessed the scientific knowledge that we do, we may be sure that they would have produced artistic and beautiful results, instead of talking nonsense about its being impossible.

——Sir Edmund Beckett, quoted in Industrial Art, 1877.




By the brightness of morn, when the day-spring is blushing,
  And bathed is creation in roseate light;
By the stillness and gloom which all nature is hushing,
  When spread are the wings of the angel of night
    — Allah swears, O Mahomed! he ne’er will forsake thee!

Though thy mortal career may be laden with sorrow,
  Yet think of the glories that wait thee above;
When the ills of to-day shall be changed on the morrow
  For bliss, in the realms of the Lord of thy love.
    — Allah swears, O Mahomed! he ne’er will forsake thee!

Encompassed by danger, an orphan he found thee;
  A wanderer in error thou wast in thy youth,
When he flung (as a mantle) his mercy around thee,
  And guided thy steps to the temple of truth.
    — Allah swears, O Mahomed! he ne’er will forsake thee!

Thou wast needy and poor, but he freely has given:
  Then scorn not the beggar, nor orphan oppress;
But learn from the light that is lent thee from heaven,
  To cherish the outcast, and pity distress.
    — Allah swears, O Mahomed! he will not forsake thee!

——From Heath’s Book of Beauty for 1837.